BEWARE OF PEDOPHILES THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

This is lecture note is to be delivered at every home. Father should call his children together and deliver this lecture. Mother should call her female children and drive down the point.

Pedophile is everywhere.

Parents, long Holiday is around the corner, wake up!

 

WHAT IS PEDOPHILIA?

Pedophilia is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction towards children/a child.

 

WHO IS A CHILD?

A child is anyone below the age of 18. Also note that children are gifts from God and He expect us as earthly guardians to take proper Care of each and every one of them.

One of our major duties is to keep them away from these patients called paedophiles.

 

CHILD MOLESTATION

Child Molestation is also known as child sexual abuse. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent sexual activities between an adult and a child.

 

TYPES OF MOLESTATION

There are different ways children can be abused. Below are some:

1. Defilement

2. Rape

3. Fingering

4. Making a child watch pornography

5. Exposing the genital to kids

6. Indecent touching

7. Fondling, etc

 

WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD? ANYBODY

Studies show that over 95% of sexually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child’s family.

 

ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS

They are right there in your house, co-tenants, family members, lesson teachers, neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates,class/school teachers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guard, maids, family /school drivers, After school teachers, teachers, mummy’s friend, daddy’s friend, caregivers, strangers…….. the list can go on.

Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because, there is no case of any of the above that has not happened.

 

CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

Parental negligence, carelessness, nonchalant attitude. A nonchalant attitude describes a manner that is unconcerned, coolly indifferent, or casual. It implies a lack of worry or excitement, often to the point of appearing apathetic or uninterested. While it can be a positive trait in some situations, such as maintaining composure under pressure, it can also be perceived negatively as a sign of disinterest or a lack of care. 

It is as bad as no one can be trusted. We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father.

 

OTHER CAUSES

1. Absentee parents

2. Parents who do not observe

3. When the kids are not informed

4. What you watch with your kids.

5. Indecent dressing by our children.

 

WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?

1. On your bed

2. Right under your nose, under your roof

3. In the school environment- class, toilet, etc.

4. Hostel

5. Parties

6. In their room (siblings)

7. Deserted/abandoned places

8. When you are distracted and so on

Note – Perpetrators look for opportunities. 5 minutes are enough to cause a life long damage.

 

HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?

1. Grooming

2. Baits

a. Emotional bait

b. Gift bait

c. Financial bait

d. Familiarity and respect bait

3. Child grooming

4. Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child’s inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse.

5. Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having sex relationship with them.

 

HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER

1. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa

2. Child feels uncomfortable when he/she sights the abuser or when the abuser is around.

3. Easily and conveniently accept to care for your child while you are away.

4. Can be hard on the child especially if the child is rejecting his moves.

 

BE OBSERVER

If any of the above is observed, please, shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable/rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holiday.

Sexual abuse happens among siblings, set rules, separate their rooms, separate their beds.

We had a case of twins having sex with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad doing the same thing.

 

WHY SHOULD WE BE THAT CARELESS?

This is because of the carelessness of both parents, their innocent minds were polluted and their lives were destroyed.

 

WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT

1. I will kill you

2. You will die

3. Your mummy will hate you

4. No one will marry you if they know

5. Your mummy will beat you

6. Your mummy will blame you.

7. Your mummy and your daddy will die.

8. He could cut the child, lick the blood and say: this is a blood covenant between us, the day you tell is the day you die.

 

SRR ACTION

Teach your child The SRR action.

S – Shout/scream

R – Run

R – Report

 

Teach and Care for your children.

Cheers and Happy Holiday!!!